How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows: Easy Tips & Examples from Keri Louise Weddings

Your wedding day is all about your story - the love, laughter, and little moments that make your relationship unique. And at the heart of your ceremony are your wedding vows: the promises you make to each other in front of your nearest and dearest.

Writing your own vows can feel daunting, but it’s also one of the most special and memorable things you’ll do as a couple if you would like to. With a little guidance, you can create vows that are heartfelt, personal, and truly “you.”

Step 1: Start With Your Story

Think about your journey together. How did you meet? What’s your favourite shared memory? What makes your partner them? Beginning with your story sets a strong, authentic foundation for your vows.

Example:
"From the first coffee we shared in that little café in Leeds, I knew my life had changed forever. You make me laugh, challenge me to grow, and love me in ways I never knew were possible."

Step 2: Make Promises That Matter

Vows are promises — not just words on paper. Think about what matters most in your relationship and what you want to commit to in your marriage.

Example:
"I promise to celebrate your victories, support you through challenges, and always listen with patience and love — in Yorkshire drizzle and North East sunshine alike."

Step 3: Keep It Simple

Short, honest sentences often hit the hardest. You don’t need to write a novel - clarity and sincerity resonate more than flowery language.

Example:
"I vow to be your partner, your confidant, and your biggest cheerleader, every day of our lives."

Step 4: Add Personal Touches

Include elements that make your vows uniquely yours: a shared memory, a favourite quote, or a sprinkle of humour.

Example:
"I promise to always share my chips with you, even when I don’t want to."
"I vow to dance in our kitchen, sing loudly in the car, and cherish the little moments that make us ‘us.’"

Step 5: Practice Out Loud

Reading your vows aloud helps them flow naturally and ensures you’re comfortable delivering them on the big day. Practice in front of a mirror or a friend - and don’t worry about nerves; a few happy tears are completely normal!

I also encourage couples to send me their vows, seperatley if they wish, so a fresh pair of eyes can look them both over making sure they match in length, tone and

Examples of Different Styles

Romantic:
"You are my best friend, my safe place, and my home. I promise to love you endlessly, to laugh with you, and to face life’s challenges hand in hand — from York to Newcastle and everywhere in between."

Humorous:
"I promise to always let you have the last slice of pizza, to watch your favourite football matches (even when I don’t care), and to love you through it all."

Poetic:
"Like the tide returns to the North Sea, I will always return to you, with patience, joy, and a love that deepens every day."

Writing your own wedding vows is a beautiful way to speak from the heart and share your unique story. Remember: there’s no “right” way to do it. Be authentic, personal, and unafraid to show emotion — that’s what makes vows unforgettable.

I also encourage couples to send me their vows separately, if they wish, so I can take a fresh pair of eyes and help make sure they match in length, tone, and flow. This ensures both vows feel balanced and harmonious on the day but can still be kept secret!

As a celebrant working across Yorkshire and the North East, I love helping couples craft vows that are heartfelt, natural, and truly theirs. Together, we can create words you’ll treasure forever.

Images by Laura Calderwood at Goldsborough Hall